Heart Month 2016: How Aware Are You?

While the “Charlotte’s Journey” part of this blog is on a sort of hiatus for the time being, I thought I’d use Heart Month to continue raising awareness of CHD and of the amazing Heart Center team at Ann & Robert H. Lurie Children’s Hospital of Chicago.

This video tells the heart-stopping (literally) and heartwarming story of Kaysen, a brave baby who survived a heart transplant when she was only a few weeks old. Watch it, and try not to cry. I dare you.

Years ago, my friend Francie Paul asked the cardiac-thoracic surgeons at Lurie Children’s what they need most. The answer? More research dollars. The Children’s Heart Foundation notes that for every government dollar spent on cancer research (very important research, and I certainly don’t begrudge them the money), less than a fraction of a penny is spent researching congential heart defects, their origins, and their treatment. Less than a fraction of a penny  for the leading cause of birth defect-related infant illness and death.  Let that sink in a bit. And then if you feel like it, visit Saving tiny Hearts Society to learn about how Francie and her husband Brian decided to combat that imbalance.

I’d love to hear your story about CHD. Please share it in the comments.

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Goodbye 2015, Hello Leap Year

I realized tonight that we never did our annual New Year’s post for 2015. Probably because we were in the thick of “countdown to surgery.”

So, let me be the first in my family to wish you a happy and healthy 2016. We will not be sad to put parts of 2015 behind us. But, in truth, we couldn’t have asked for a better year. Yes, Charlotte had her third open-heart surgery. And, yes, it was the first surgery she was old enough to be scared of and the first new scar she was aware enough to be self-conscious about. And yet…she crushed it, as they say. She came through with a smile (after the dilaudid wore off).

And once past it, Charlotte learned to ride a bike; traveled to Washington, D.C., Mexico, Cape Cod, Belgium, Amsterdam, New York and New Jersey; had her first sleepover party; and made me laugh harder than you can imagine. We’re proud of the incredible strength she showed during the first part of the year and hope she’ll realize one day what a warrior she is.

As a Truncus Arteriosus type I patient, we have learned, Charlotte continues to experience best-case scenario outcomes. She has had no emergent issues and suffers no contingent developmental delays (we just learned this year that we probably should have been prepared for severe learning and developmental difficulties). With that in mind, I have one thing to say as 2015 fades into memory: Thank you.

Thank you Dr. Backer and your extraordinary surgical team. Charlotte with Dr. Backer Thank you Dr. Luciana Young, for your friendship and amazing care of our daughter. Thank you Elizabeth Capella, for teaching Charlotte’s friends about her condition to make post-surgery school easier.
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Thank you to Lurie Children’s Hospital and the Regenstein Cardiac Care Unit.Flock of DocsThank you to Charlotte’s incomparable teacher Alexandra Mignet and her 4th grade class for throwing Charlotte a party and Skyping with her while she was out. DSCN1235Thank you to Philippe and Team Charlotte for running the Move for the Kids 5K with Charlotte in celebration of Charlotte’s recovery and in support of “Charlotte’s Hospital.”

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And thank you to each and every one of you who never ever treat her like anything other than a regular kid. All things considered, 2015 was a good year.

Charlotte’s Journey Home began as a way to keep our family and friends informed throughout my pregnancy and in the first critical weeks and months of Charlotte’s life. Little did I dream that it would be a 10+ year endeavor. Nor did we realize that we would touch the lives of other parents of CHD children or of kids with severe reflux. Or find an adult role model for Charlotte, another Truncus Arteriosus patient (Jessica, that’s you). Or be befriended by a tour-de-force crusader for CHD research (Francie, you know who you are). It’s been a pretty good 10 year run.

As we head into the next phase of Charlotte’s life, she wants more privacy about her growth and life changes. And as there aren’t that many medical updates these days, it seems a good time to put Charlotte’s Journey Home on hiatus. We’ll be back when there’s a heart or medical update of import, or when we want your support for our endeavors on behalf of Lurie Children’s, or when we just are so proud we need to kvell loudly.

Until then, dear reader and Team Charlotte, one last THANK YOU for all the support you’ve offered our family for the past decade.

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Sometimes You Look In the Rearview Mirror

Charlotte is off at her first full day of fifth grade. How did that happen? No, really, where did the time go?

I’ve been a negligent blogger, largely because co-chairing the 60th Gold Coast Fashion Award Show has taken more time than anticipated because we’re inventing an entirely new event. We’re in the home stretch and as I did some research to fact check our program book, I came across the following post.  It’s been a long time since I did an A-Z post, but if I had to write a new one, it wouldn’t be much different than what follows. I’m certainly less angry and weary, but the emotional response to Charlotte’s medical complexity still lies below the surface. I don’t think about it often because I’m way too busy hanging with my 5’1″, funny, sweet, happy FIFTH GRADER. How lucky are we?

(Your reward for reading the whole thing? Photos, of course!)

How I Am, From A to Z, On Charlotte’s 5 Month Birthday

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Back to School, But Not Quite Back to Normal

Have you ever seen a conquering queen returned to her castle? It must look something like Charlotte’s reception at school yesterday. As soon as her classmates saw her turn the corner at the top of the stairs, several girls came running toward her to envelope her in hugs. As we approached the classroom, the crowd parted to let her pass. Her classmates peppered her with questions and other fourth graders stared and smiled. My heart swelled. It nearly burst when her teacher jumped out of her chair to give Charlotte a hug.  She was thrilled to be back at school, and school was clearly happy to have her back.

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Charlotte hard at work on a craft project dropped of by a friend of mine. She has been so spoiled for the past 4 weeks. Thank you, everyone.

Charlotte can’t carry her backpack for another month. I don’t know if you’ve carried a fourth grade backpack recently, but Charlotte’s must weigh 15+ pounds. It triggered the seatbelt alarm in my car this morning.  So, I walk her upstairs every day. In an effort not to disrupt class too much, I’ve asked for her to have help bringing it to the office. Her desk mates and dear friends Taylor and Annamaria have been helping, with big smiles on their faces. I suspect that will grow old eventually, but I so appreciate their support of our kiddo.

The APN suggested that Charlotte start back to school half days for a week or two. I picked her up at 11:30 a.m. and she was happy to see me, yawning all the way home. She didn’t nap, but she was definitely exhausted.

Same drill today. She wasn’t as tired when I picked her up, but our 1.5 hour wait at the pediatrician (for a post-surgery follow up) took the rest of her energy and she was in bed, fast asleep, by 7:32.

Still, she’s on her way back to her regular routine. And she couldn’t be happier about it.

Pediatrician appointment was truly unremarkable, except that Charlotte is now 59.75 inches tall. Look out, Jamie!

Post-Surgery Appointment (#CHDAware), or One More Step Back Toward Regular

It’s hard to believe that Charlotte has been home for nearly a week and that her surgery was two weeks ago. As long as the hospital stay felt at the time, it has faded into memory in some ways. (Though it was odd to go back to the 15th floor for a Children’s Service Board meeting last week, two days after she was released.)

We returned to Lurie Children’s on Tuesday for Charlotte’s post-surgical visit with the Advance Practice Nurse (APN), the most excellent Holly Adams (with a guest visit by Lindsay Jackson).

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In addition to removing her own bandages, Charlotte listened to her own heart. She says it sounds different than it did. The thump-swoosh rhythm seems stronger and faster. (Mom forgot her camera and the phone didn’t so well with hospital lighting.)

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I’m pleased to say that there is nothing of importance to report!  Charlotte is only on one prescription medication, Lasix. That dose was reduced by 50%, to be continued until we see Dr. Young in March. She continues to take Miralax and baby aspirin, the latter until we see Dr. Young and the former until at least our visit with the pediatrician next week.

Charlotte had already removed all the tegaderm bandages (on the arterial line, one failed PIV poke, and–yuckiest of all for her–the chest tube wounds). All that remained were the surgistrips over the wound.

Holly and I watched as Charlotte took the bandages off herself, slowly and deliberately and with strong intention. Unlike 2007, I did not take a photo of this scar for public sharing. It looks a lot better than it did at her first post-op visit in 2007.

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First post op visit March 2007. Skin still irritated from tegaderm around IV points and scar is dark pink. In February 2015, tegaderm irritation is all gone and scar is already light pink

 

Bottom line: Charlotte has been released from cardio-vascular surgical care. Her next hospital visit will be with Dr. Young. Her next post-op visit will be with her pediatrician.

She has been cleared to return to school on Monday with the recommendation that she do half days until we understand how tired she gets. (We’ve been hoping to build her stamina with walks, but the weather has not been cooperating.)

Charlotte’s Story: The Road to a Healthy Heart

Sometimes I’m so proud of my kiddo, I could just burst. This is one of those moments. She was asked earlier this month if she would contribute a blog post to “Life Inside Lurie Children’s: The Official Blog of Ann & Robert H. Lurie Children’s Hospital.” Despite the month she knew she had planned, she said yes. And she said it without hesitation.  We talked a lot about what she’d write, but she didn’t start drafting it until February 14, just 3 days after her surgery. She dictated it to me.

So without further, ado, I invite you to follow the link below to read Charlotte’s Story: The Road to a Healthy Heart.

A Day In the Life of Cardiac Surgery Recovery

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Why homeschooling at our house will never be a long term commitment.

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Mom’s Remedy

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More Quirkle

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More trash talking, I mean, more Qwirkle.

In all seriousness, Charlotte has been handling her confinement with aplomb. She’s been trying to get her schoolwork done without too much complaining, playing board games, reading, and practicing the piano a lot (it’s good for her post-surgery posture recovery!). And pretty much every night at 7:36 she says, “I need to go to bed. Now.” Then she sleeps for about 12 hours.

We finally went for a walk around the block yesterday–had to wait until the below-zero temperatures subsided. She also had a visit from a school friend yesterday. Today, another school friend visit plus a haircut (with a one block walk to/from the car) led to Charlotte abandoning a game of Qwirkle midway through for a nap. Charlotte never naps. It’s kind of against all of her principles (silly girl). But today, she passed out for about two hours, waking up only because Phil tempted her with wonton soup and we let her watch some of the Oscars (well, we let her sit in front of the t.v. and play video games on her iPod).

She’s running a  low-grade fever today–the first we’ve noticed. It’s only 99.1F so, we’re not too worried, but we’ll keep an eye on it.

She’s gotten all of her bandages off, except the surgistrips on the big incision, which the APN will take off on Tuesday.